THE BLOG….my happy place.

Welcome to my (Gwen Vogelzang) personal blog. Read about my experiences as a special needs adoptive parent, our family life, and the story behind publishing our first book “If I Squeeze Your Head I’m Sorry.”

What I Won’t Tell People

Most people look at my family and would rightly assume that we love the process of adoption.  We do.  Adoption has provided us with two brilliantly made for us kids.  It has given us the family we longed for and wrongly assumed we would biologically be gifted with....

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We all have stuff.  It looks different for everyone, but we’re all in the “stuff” business together.  The natural progression of living with our “stuff” can be a windy, haphazard, painstaking journey.  Each one of our journeys looks different, feels different, sounds...

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Resources for Sensory/ADD Families

Today, after being relieved from Jury Duty, I have 3 hours to write.  Which is why I thought I quit my job.  I genuinely believed I would dreamily sit in my office and write for 8 hours, 3 days per week.  I would have 4 chapters of my memoir done by now.  Well, it...

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Picking Up Her Legs

If you leave the house (and don't live in the middle of the woods) you'll most likely come across an elderly woman or man.  You might walk past them in a rush and barely notice them struggling to reach their destination.  You might sigh a slightly irritated sigh as...

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All Our Stuff

We've all got stuff.  It does seem like some people are gifted more than others, but we're all in the "stuff" business together.  What I've learned through years of growing in acquaintance with my own stuff is that we don't have the ability to truly wrap our minds or...

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Oh there are days.  We all have um.  Filled with things we can't control.  Most days fall below the radar.  And some just seem to fall into the category of "overflowing with things we can't control."  Today was a bit overflowing.  I don't bitch and moan about much and...

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This Boy

Duder has had a great year thus far as a gigantic 1st grader.  He's focusing, he's making it through his long days with just enough gusto, his creativity is off the hook (we have to tell him to turn his brain off quite regularly when we can't keep up with all the...

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